The worst thing in the world you could do to your Ramadan is completely render it void because of a dispute you have with someone. It contradicts the entire essence of fasting and seeking the pardon of your Lord because it’s not befitting to request forgiveness if you’re unable to forgive others.
Ramadan is the best opportunity to write that email or text message to that lost family member or friend and say “it’s not worth it to lose Allah’s forgiveness over this” and “I’M SORRY.”
Even if you’ve been avoiding someone and there is an implicit, unofficial, or unspoken boycott, make sure you end that today so that you don’t jeopardize your fasting.
- Don’t do it for that person, do it for the sake of Allah.
Oh Allah clear our hearts from enmity, give us the ability to forgive, and pardon us for we have wronged ourselves. Ameen.
Things to Give Up in Ramadaan
- Anything that you spend too much time on e.g the phone
- Unnecessary speech
- Try not to get angry
- Make plenty of tawbah
- Try to pray every salaah in the musjid
- Pray with khushu
- Finish the Qur’an slowly with contemplation and translation
- Make a list of your worst habits and try to give them up.
Targets for The Last 10 Nights
- Make sure you pray Isha and Fajr in jamaat without fail.
- In the last third of the night (or when you wake up for suhoor) make sure you have a list of du’as to make.
The Prophet (saw) was the most generous of people in giving charity, but he was even more generous during the month of Ramadaan. He was more generous and faster in giving charity than a blowing wind.
Anas (ra) narrated that the Prophet (saw) said: “The best charity is the one given during Ramadan.”
Charity is not limited to giving money.
- It is also helping another person in their time of need
- Donating what is beloved to you for the sake of Allah
- Designating a dwelling place (depending on your profession) to one who can’t afford it
- Smiling at your brother
- Helping your family with the chores
- Mending the ties of kinship
- Teaching your family about Islam
- Helping to lay out the food just before breaking the fast (at the musjid, at home or anywhere else you may be)
This month is an excellent opportunity for us all to gain an immense amount of reward, with the correct intention of pleasing Allah, from every day tasks that we normally do.
Set yourself a target of doing a minimum of one charity every single day, without fail, for the entire month of Ramadaan.
Then do they not reflect upon the Qur’an, or are there locks upon [their] hearts?
Ramadaan is the month of the Qur’an. It is a time for Muslims to be attached to the Qur’an through recitation, contemplation and acting upon it.
Many of us will have a goal of finishing the Qur’an a set number of times this Ramadaan. This is a noble and praiseworthy goal. However, how many of us truly understand what we are reading? Truly understand what Allah is saying?
This Ramadaan lets make it a goal to ensure that we include contemplation alongside our recitation by reading a small amount of tafseer to help us understand what Allah is saying to us and what He wants from us.
O you who have believed, decreed upon you is fasting as it was decreed upon those before you that you may become righteous.
It is clear from this Verse of the Qur’an that fasting was not prescribed to just feel hungry and thirsty, rather it was prescribed by Allah for us to attain taqwa. This means to have Allah on our minds at all times. To make Allah our concern in all our matters.
This Verse is not only to be practiced in Ramadaan but also outside Ramadaan.
This month is an excellent opportunity for us all to make small changes in our lives that can be carried through the entire year, insha’Allah.
Make a list of targets for Ramadan and include:
- Finishing the Qur’an multiple times
- Repent a lot and try to cry everyday
- Read a bit of tafseer, even if only one page
- Increase in Ibaadah (acts of worship)
Always make your intentions for Ramadan before it arrives in case your soul is taken beforehand, then you’ll get rewarded based on your intention.
One of the righteous would stay up at night and say, yaa Allah, my concern for You has annihilated all other mundane concerns.
Some have said, he who does good during the day gets rewarded during the night and he who does good during the night gets rewarded during the day.
It is also said that the noblest of all deeds is to oppose one’s desires at all times.