Having Private Time with Allah

Try to spend at least ten minutes (at first) a day reading about the next life, the heart, and other beneficial topics for the heart. Doing this is extremely valuable for our hearts which are full of diseases; loving worldly things too much, hardness of the heart, filthy desires and arrogance.

Start today and have some private time with Allah. The Prophet (saw) would also do this.

The All or Nothing Mentality

This is when a Muslim thinks that if they don’t do everything all at once then they shouldn’t do anything at all. This is the trick of the Shaytaan.

For example, one might say that I missed Fajr prayer and due to this my day has started off wrong so I’m not going to pray the rest of the prayers and I’ll start again tomorrow.

Rather, one should continuously try to build up their ibaadah slowly, as opposed to wanting to pray qiyaam ul layl in the last third of the night straight away. First start off with your fard prayers if they weren’t being prayed. Then move on to the Sunnah and add more gradually.

Planting the Seeds of Awe and Fear of Allah in Our Children

Planting the seeds of awe and fear of Allah in children is far more important than them memorising the Qur’an when they are young. However, memorising the Qur’an is praiseworthy.

Never Become Complacent

Some of the Taabi’een said that we met over 30 of the Sahaaba and they all accused themselves of hypocrisy!

Don’t ever become complacent. Constantly accuse yourself and never ever look down on anyone.

Understand and Implement

Know that one of the features of the Khawaarij was their tremendous ability to memorise. This is a mistake made in a lot of Arab countries, even by mashaayikh. Just memorising is problematic in 2 ways:

  • You memorise and don’t understand what you’re memorising
  • You don’t implement what you’re memorising.

We say memorise as much as you can, especially the Qur’an and Hadith, but do so with understanding and implementation.

Don’t be impressed when you hear someone has memorised so much until you see that is has been implemented in them.

When the mashaayikh say, when you memorise you’ll become this or that, they are referring to people they presume have clean hearts, where the ilm goes into a safe place. However, the reality is most of us don’t have clean hearts.