Abd-Allaah ibn Mas’ood said that the Prophet (saw) said: “No one who has an atom’s-weight of arrogance in his heart will enter Paradise.”
- Arrogance is looking down on others / looking down on the truth.
- It’s from the major sins.
- It’s a characteristic of Shaytaan.
Signs of an Arrogant Person
- Always expecting others to give them salaam first.
- Never seeking advice in matters.
- Always thinking one is right and unable to admit when one is wrong.
- Thinks he knows everything and doesn’t need to be taught / learn anything (even though he’s never studied).
- Remembering other’s faults and flaws but forgetting their own.
- Constantly reminding a person of a sin they committed, even though they have repented for it!
- Thinking one is better than others due to wealth, background, knowledge, looks and so on.
Cure for Arrogance
- Admit you have a problem. If a person can’t do that then they’ll never improve!
- Think of anytime you’ve been arrogant (sit in a room quietly and ponder) and then repent for it. Look at the list above to help you.
- Remember, you are competing with Allah: Mightiness and Loftiness are for Him Alone! Learn about Him!
- You are made from the mixing of waters, so how can someone with such a lowly beginning think so highly of themselves?!
Arrogance can lead a person to over-assess himself in relation to others and be deluded about the reality of his abilities (the disease of ghuroor). This inflated self-image leads a person to believe he can do that which he is not equipped to do, much to the detriment of himself and those around him.
Another consequence of arrogance is that a person might be inclined to boast and brag when in the company of others (the disease of fakhr). Or it may lead him to be self-admiring, vain, and impressed with himself and his accomplishments (the disease of ‘ujb).
Arrogance can lead a person to be unwilling to forgive others and harbor anger and hatred towards them (the diseases of ghadab and bughd, respectively). It can also cause them to envy others because they feel that they more rightfully deserve the blessings that others have (the disease of hasad). And the list of diseases that takkabur is related to goes on and on – more than this post could ever encompass.
Thus, the disease of takkabur is indeed one of the worst diseases of the hearts and understanding how to purify our hearts from this disease is vital.
It was narrated that Mu‘aawiyyah ibn Abi Sufyân, may Allâh be pleased with them, said to his son: O my son! Beware of Hasad (destructive envy) for it affects you before it affects your enemy.
Ibn Taymiyah (rh) quotes Abu Dawud that those who want to be known by everyone have a disease of the heart known shahwa khafiyya; a hidden desire.
Bishr bin Haarith mentioned that the one who wants to be famous will not taste the sweetness of the Aakhirah.
From the signs of arrogance and ujb (self amazement) is when one fasts and looks down on those that are eating! How does he know that they don’t fast other days or they don’t fast more than him?!
When you are keeping a Sunnah fast on a Monday for example, and you question why someone else is eating, then repent as you have a disease of the heart.
Some of the people of the past mentioned that a slave is not being sincere when he desires fame and wants to be known.
The people of the past would write to each other and warn each other about wanting to be known!
It’s very sad to see people feeling happy when they are remembered by others and feeling happiness in their heart when they know people know of them! This is from the diseases of the heart and what a great many they are!
Do you recite the Qur’an the same in front of others as when you are alone? If you led the salaah or someone asked you to recite, would you recite it beautifully? Do you do the same when you are praying alone at home in your optional prayers?
If the answer is no, then know you have a disease of the heart; riyaa!