Al-Qurtubi (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
I say: based on that, kind treatment of neighbours is enjoined and is recommended, whether they are Muslim or not. And this is the right thing to do. Kind treatment may be in the sense of helping or it may be in the sense of being kind, refraining from annoyance and standing by them.
There is no sin in asking someone else to make du’aa’ for you, on the condition that this does not involve anything that is wrong.
Some scholars have said that it’s better to make du’a for yourself as this shows more trust in Allah. Also, a person would naturally make more du’a for themselves. However, there is no problem in asking others at all. Infact, some say it’s good to ask others.
It was the habit of Imam Ahmad (rh), out of his great caution, to avoid frequent use of explicit expressions like halal and haraam. Therefore, Imam Ahmad (rh) would typically resort to the use of certain expressions which would indicate the view that he inclines to. Sometimes, there is disagreement as to what his intent is behind these expressions. Some such expressions are the following:
- I like it (yu’jibuni)
- Good (hasan)
- It is befitting (yanbaghi)
- It is not befitting (la yanbaghi)
- I dislike it (akrahu)
- I fear (akhaafu, akhshaa)
- I hope (arju)
- There is no harm in it (la ba’sa bihi)
- I hope there is no harm in it (arju an la ba’sa bihi)
- I am not so brave (ajbanu ‘anhu)
- I am not so bold as to speak about that (la ajtari’u ‘alayh)
- Leave it (da’hu)
- Leave this issue (da’ hadhihi ‘l-mas’ala)
You never ever hear them backbite anyone. If they are asked about someone, in terms of ilm, they are just!
When a woman goes past, even if they glance at her, they instantly remove their glance and cast it in another direction, even if she looks amazingly beautiful!
This is called following the Sunnah of the Prophet (صلى الله عليه و سلم)
From the etiquettes of finishing a book with a Sheikh are:
- Shukr to Allah
- To increase in obedience to Allah
- Depending on the book, sometimes the mashaayikh would have a party!
- The students would pay the mashaayikh as kindness and a gift.
The Prophet (صلى الله عليه و سلم) said in the Saheehayn, the best of you are those with the best and most perfect character!
The ulema said that if knowledge without good character was something praiseworthy, then Shaytaan would have been from the best of people.
The one who has no ilm and good character doesn’t damage anyone but himself. However, the one with ilm and poor character damages himself and others!
A dua the Prophet (صلى الله عليه و سلم) would make:
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In the Sunnan of Abu Dawud, authenticated by Al Nawawi and Ibn Al Qayyim (rh), the narration mentions that there are designated angels that when a person sends salaam on the Prophet (saw), the Angels take it to him and Allah restores his (saw) soul and the salaam is presented to him!
So increase in salaat and salaam upon him (saw)! Show your love for him (saw), especially on Fridays!