Some of the righteous would say that good character is bearing abuse, not getting angry, a smiling face and sweet speech.
Let’s try to be like this, especially with those whom we live with rather than being those that are nice in front of people and someone different at home.
Bakr Abu Zaid mentioned from the manners when a student sits with his teacher:
- Not to continually interrupt
- Avoiding extensive questioning in front of an audience as it causes self delusion to the student
- Abdullah ibn Mas’ood mentioned, narrate to the audience as long as you can see they are interested and when you see slackness in their eyes then stop narrating to them.
The Prophet (saw) said that the best of you are those with the best character!
The ulema have said that if knowledge without good character was something praiseworthy, Shaytaan would have been from the best of people.
The one who has no ilm and good character doesn’t damage anyone but himself. However, the one with ilm and poor character damages himself and others!
Some scholars of the past have mentioned that silence is safety.
Some would say that there are different levels of silence; silence to protect oneself and others from lies and backbiting and silence due to being overwhelmed by the Magnificence of Allah!
Some would say whoever remains silent, instead of speaking the truth, is a mute devil!
Be balanced and ask the Almighty for wisdom.
From the etiquettes when asking a question is to make sure that the person being asked is paying attention. If they are busy, sleeping or not concentrating due to using their phone, it’s bad manners to ask the question.
Al-Qurtubi (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
I say: based on that, kind treatment of neighbours is enjoined and is recommended, whether they are Muslim or not. And this is the right thing to do. Kind treatment may be in the sense of helping or it may be in the sense of being kind, refraining from annoyance and standing by them.
There is no sin in asking someone else to make du’aa’ for you, on the condition that this does not involve anything that is wrong.
Some scholars have said that it’s better to make du’a for yourself as this shows more trust in Allah. Also, a person would naturally make more du’a for themselves. However, there is no problem in asking others at all. Infact, some say it’s good to ask others.