Problems Due to Our Sins

If you find out that someone has offended you, either behind your back or to your face, go to that person and say, calling him nice names, I apologise for whatever bad I’ve done to you, please forgive me.

The easy option is to get upset and argue back. Rather, know that this is due to your own sins so apologise to the person and repent.

Hate the Sin and Not the Sinner

Shaykh ’Uthaymeen, may Allaah have mercy on him, said:

“When they see a person sinning, many brothers hate the sin and this is something correct, but they [also] hate the sinner, and then they deal with him harshly as someone who hates him would, like someone who wants to take revenge on him, and this is a huge mistake.

You must cure the sinner as a gentle doctor who treats a wound in order for it to heal does, he doesn’t treat the wound in order for it to get worse, so he treats this person with gentleness and a desire for good for him and out of mercy for him … this is how the scholars who nurture are, they look at the creation with a view to reform, not to seek revenge and out of hatred—I hate the sin which this person does, but this person is a believer so he is my brother, even if he fornicated and stole, he is still my brother, the believers are but brothers.”

[Majmoo’ Fataawaa wa Rasaa’il Fadilatish-Shaikh Muhammad ibn Saalih al-’Uthaimeen, vol. 27, pp. 311-312]

Staying Away from Sins

Some of the people of the past would say, we don’t tell you to leave the dunya but rather leave sins.

This means that you can live comfortably; you don’t have to be poor but ensure that you are staying away from sins.

If You Can’t Do Good, Don’t Sin

A man came to Muarraq al Ijlee and said, I can’t get up at night to pray or fast during the day. Muarraq al Ijlee responded, if you can’t do good, then don’t do bad.

This means that if you see your Emaan affected and going down, then don’t do more haraam, rather maintain what you have.

Making Jokes of Sins

If one is lying about another then he will be sinful. On top of that he is causing fitnah and too much talk hardens the heart. As does too much joking.

A joker is never taken seriously especially in matters of religion.

And if he is making jokes of sins, which the other has done and repented from, he will most likely be afflicted by it.

Signs That A Person’s Emaan Is Decreasing

  • Sins and doesn’t feel any guilt.
  • Commits sins which he never used to do but has now started doing them.
  • Having a hard heart and no desire to read the Qur’an.
  • Feeling too lazy to do good.
  • Neglecting the Sunnah.
  • Not feeling anything when hearing Verses from the Qur’an.
  • Finding it difficult to remember Allah and making dhikr.
  • Desiring status.
  • Being concerned with whether something is haraam or halal only; and not avoiding makrooh (not recommended) things.
  • Not feeling concerned about the situation of Muslims.
  • Likes to argue just for the sake of arguing without any proof.
  • Becoming engrossed and very involved with the dunya; worldly things.

The danger of your emaan decreasing is that if you are only completing your fard obligations and your emaan takes a big hit, this could lead you to kufr.