Repent for every haraam action you’ve ever done; from your eyes to your hands to not completing obligations to diseases of the heart like jealousy, hatred for others, arrogance.
- Stop the sin immediately.
- Remorse – feel sadness that you did it and cry over the sin.
- Be determined not to return to the sin.
- Ask Allah for His forgiveness.
- Sincerity – do it for Allah.
- Must be done before the rattle of death.
- If it’s from the rights of others, then return it or its value if you stole.
- If you spoke about someone behind their back, mention good about them in the same gathering and make du’a for them!
Make du’a to avoid the sweetness of haraam. Many people have left sins, yet they are happy when they remember the sin or they recall it fondly. This is not sincere tawbah and you will not feel the sweetness of worship until you leave the sin and feel regret.
Some benefits from the book “Al Istighfar” by Ibn Taymiyyah (Rahimahullah).
He (rh) mentions that abandoning commandments is worse than committing prohibitions.
What one committed of prohibited actions, as well as what one left out of ignorance and neglect, needs to be repented for.
One of the righteous said the common people repent from the sins whereas the righteous also repent from neglectfulness.
Wahb ibn Munabbih said that Aadam (as) cried for 300 years after eating from the tree and never looked up after being sent down to earth.
The Prophets were forgiven by Allah, yet they weren’t complacent! We should be in the state of regret even after the sin, even if it’s many years later.
The least that can be said is that it’s recommended to repent and feel regret for sins which a person did in the past and for which one has already repented for.
If a person talks about someone behind their back, even though he didn’t mention their name but it’s known that he is talking about that person, this is backbiting!
It has been said, the one who backbites will have his good deeds cancelled!
Others have said that the one who backbites and repents will be the last to enter Jannah and the one who didn’t repent will be from the first to enter the fire.
- A man came to Ibn al Jawzi (rh) and said, I want to divorce my wife, I’m tired of her and so on. Ibn Jawzi (rh) replied, you need to sit somewhere quiet and repent to Allah.
- When they thought about fighting Hajjaj, the tyrant, they said, you have been given Hajjaj as a punishment from Allah and if you fight this one, Allah has many many Hajjajs.
- A man was sworn at so he repented to Allah for whatever he had done to be sworn at.
What We Learn from These Stories:
- Always repent if something goes wrong.
- Always blame yourself and not others.
- Don’t ever think you’re free of doing bad things. We have all sinned in our lives so when something bad happens to us, don’t begin to ask why. Just because we forgot about the sin and didn’t repent for it doesn’t mean Allah forgot!