A person of the past said, I have never said a word when I am angry except I regretted it when I was calm.
Ibn Awn (rh), when someone would make him angry, would say, may Allah bless you.
Other things mentioned by the people of the past:
- Stay quiet
- Leave the room
- Sit or lie down
- Saying the ta’awwudh.
Let’s try to control ourselves wherever we are; work, at home and so on and instead overlook, forgive and pardon.
If a person talks about someone behind their back, even though he didn’t mention their name but it’s known that he is talking about that person, this is backbiting!
It has been said, the one who backbites will have his good deeds cancelled!
Others have said that the one who backbites and repents will be the last to enter Jannah and the one who didn’t repent will be from the first to enter the fire.
As mentioned by some of the people of the past, the one who is the best protector of his heart is the one who controls his tongue the best.
Imam al Nawawi (rh) mentions that a person needs to safeguard his tongue except from good speech or something beneficial. If he doubts the benefit of his speech he stays quiet.
Imam al Nawawi (rh) quotes Shaafi’ee (rh): If someone wants to speak he should think before he speaks. If there is a benefit then speak and if he doubts then stay silent.
As one of the people of the past said he counted the number of flaws in man up to 8,000 flaws.
If a person guards their tongue, they are protected from these!
بعض الناس يشغل نفسه
بأمور لافائدة له منها؛
قال الحسن البصري :
” من علامة اعراض الله تعالى
عن العبد :
أن يجعل شغله فيما لا يعنيه “.