When you hear a swear word come out, lewd and filthy remarks and the like, then know that this shows some deficiency in the heart. The people of Jannah are guided to the best of speech; showing their clean hearts.
How many fall into backbiting others, yet use excuses like “it’s the truth!” Let us guard our tongues today and repent sincerely for all our backbiting. Mention good about the one we backbit in front of the same people before our souls are taken in this life and our good deeds are taken in the next!
Really try to remember hard if you’ve ever done this heinous sin and make up for it!
Ammar ibn Yassir (ra) was known as someone who spoke little and stayed silent a lot of the time.
Ibn Mas’ood (ra) said that a person’s tribulations are based on the usage of his tongue.
A person of the past said, I have never said a word when I am angry except I regretted it when I was calm.
Ibn Awn (rh), when someone would make him angry, would say, may Allah bless you.
Other things mentioned by the people of the past:
- Stay quiet
- Leave the room
- Sit or lie down
- Saying the ta’awwudh.
Let’s try to control ourselves wherever we are; work, at home and so on and instead overlook, forgive and pardon.
If a person talks about someone behind their back, even though he didn’t mention their name but it’s known that he is talking about that person, this is backbiting!
It has been said, the one who backbites will have his good deeds cancelled!
Others have said that the one who backbites and repents will be the last to enter Jannah and the one who didn’t repent will be from the first to enter the fire.
As mentioned by some of the people of the past, the one who is the best protector of his heart is the one who controls his tongue the best.
Imam al Nawawi (rh) mentions that a person needs to safeguard his tongue except from good speech or something beneficial. If he doubts the benefit of his speech he stays quiet.
Imam al Nawawi (rh) quotes Shaafi’ee (rh): If someone wants to speak he should think before he speaks. If there is a benefit then speak and if he doubts then stay silent.
As one of the people of the past said he counted the number of flaws in man up to 8,000 flaws.
If a person guards their tongue, they are protected from these!