- Asking for the hastening of the punishment of the aakhirah in the dunya
- Over exaggerating in du’a
- Asking for something haraam or breaking of ties
- Giving up just because a reply hasn’t come
- Du’a against oneself or one’s children or property.
Some people go overboard when praising others and sometimes praise them for things which they haven’t done and at times over exaggerating what they have done.
This could lead to arrogance and pride and be a means to their destruction.
This could be shown when a person stays quiet when they are praised rather than telling them to stop praising you. This also occurs when someone wants to have titles before their name and they get upset if they don’t have them. This isn’t a good sign.
Let us hide our good deeds and humble ourselves like the righteous of the past.
If you are praised by others, read this du’a:
What to say when a Muslim is praised: اللَّهُمَّ لاَ تُؤَاخِذْنِي بِمَا يَقُولُونَ، وَ اغْفِرْ لِي مَا لاَ يَعْلَمُونَ [وَ اجْعَلْنِي خَيْرًا مِمَّا يَظُنُّونَ
Allaahumma laa tu’aakhithnee bimaa yaqooloona, waghfir lee maa laa ya’lamoona [waj’alnee khayram-mimmaa yadhunnoon].
O Allah, do not call me to account for what they say and forgive me for what they have no knowledge of [and make me better than they imagine].
Al-Bukhari, Al-‘Adabul-Mufrad no. 761. See Al-Albani, Sahih Al-‘Adabul-Mufrad (no. 585). The portion between brackets is from Al-Bayhaqi, Shu’ab Al-Iman 4/228, and comes another account
The people of the past would say, the one who overpowers their stomach, will be able to do more righteous actions and be strong in their religion.
Umar (ra) said, be careful of what you eat, things which bloat the stomach makes a person lazy in prayer and gives illnesses and diseases.
Hassan said, the crisis of our father was that he ate at the wrong time and this will be our crisis until the Last Day!
Yusuf ibn Asbat said, hunger softens the heart.
- This was the way of the Prophets.
Al Amash said, if you dishonour your stomach, it’ll honour you.
Malik ibn Dinar said, a person who masters his stomach, masters all righteous actions.
Wisdom doesn’t settle in a stomach that is full.
Shaafi’ee (rh) said, I haven’t bloated (meaning over-eaten) for 16 years, except once and I vomited myself as bloating makes a heart heard, reduces intelligence, induces sleep and weakens one in ibaadah.
If a person talks about someone behind their back, even though he didn’t mention their name but it’s known that he is talking about that person, this is backbiting!
It has been said, the one who backbites will have his good deeds cancelled!
Others have said that the one who backbites and repents will be the last to enter Jannah and the one who didn’t repent will be from the first to enter the fire.
It doesn’t matter if you pray Qiyaam ul Layl every night, finish the Qur’an every month and fast every week, it doesn’t mean that your heart will be free from hasad (envy).
When you hear someone’s name mentioned due to something and you feel something in your heart, or you see someone with something and feel something in your heart, know this is a sign of envy.
Internal problems are more problematic than external ones. This an epidemic in our times. Someone might have a beard or a thobe and a sister might have a niqaab or hijab and yet their hearts are full of envy.
When you feel this way, repent to Allah and make du’a for the person you felt envy towards!
The Messenger of Allah (saw) said: Whoever says – upon going out of his home:
Bismillãh, tawakkaltu `alã ‘allãh, lã hawla wa lã quwwata ‘illã bil-lãhi ta`ãla,
[I put my trust in Allah, there is neither might nor strength, except by Allah, the Most High]
It is said to him:
“You have been sufficed, protected, and guided, and the shaytan would move aside from him, then say to another shaytan: What access do you have to a man that has been guided, sufficed, and protected?”
[Sunan Abi Dawud]
The Prophet (saw) said:
« اقْرَأُوا الْبَقَرَةَ فَإِنَّ أَخْذَهَا بَرَكَةٌ وَتَرْكَهَا حَسْرَةٌ وَلَا تَسْتَطِيعُهَا الْبَطَلَة»
Read Al-Baqarah, because in having it there is blessing, and in ignoring it there is a sorrow and the sorceresses cannot contend with it.