Your main intention when teaching or reminding others should be to benefit yourself! If your main intention is to remove ignorance from others first, then you will not see barakah in your teaching and you’ll also call people to things you don’t do yourself!
‘Uthman bin `Affan (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: I heard the Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam) saying: “One who performs `Isha’ prayer in congregation, is as if he has performed Salaah for half of the night. And one who performs the Fajr prayer in congregation, is as if he has performed Salaah the whole night.”
Remember to have a portion of the night prayer. Even if it’s not in the last third of the night, pray qiyaam ul layl straight after ‘Isha and then sleep. Set your alarm for the last third of the night if you can get up.
Firstly, you need to have a drive towards your goal. This can be done by reading a lot about the people of the past and how they were with ilm and getting things done.
Secondly, making lots of du’a. Du’a should never be looked down upon or belittled.
Thirdly, making a plan.
Try to make tawbah immediately after any sin you commit.
Try your best to spend more time thinking, even if for ten minutes, about your weaknesses, thoughts and ideas. They must be written down and documented so you can return to them.
Make the following du’a when you are struggling with raising children:
وعن الفضيل قال: اللهم إني أجتهدتُ أن أؤذّب عليّاً، فلم أقدر على تأديبه فأدبه أنت لي.
This du’a was made by Al-Fudayl ibn ‘Iyaad when he was struggling with raising his son. It is said that he became an amazing son after this du’a.
Oh Allah, I struggled to rectify my son Ali, and I’m not able to train him or raise him as I want. Oh Allah, you raise him and make him righteous for me.