If your heart isn’t penetrated when listening to the Qur’an or reciting it, do istighfar and make du’a as it’s an extremely bad sign.
- Asking for the hastening of the punishment of the aakhirah in the dunya
- Over exaggerating in du’a
- Asking for something haraam or breaking of ties
- Giving up just because a reply hasn’t come
- Du’a against oneself or one’s children or property.
Some people go overboard when praising others and sometimes praise them for things which they haven’t done and at times over exaggerating what they have done.
This could lead to arrogance and pride and be a means to their destruction.
This could be shown when a person stays quiet when they are praised rather than telling them to stop praising you. This also occurs when someone wants to have titles before their name and they get upset if they don’t have them. This isn’t a good sign.
Let us hide our good deeds and humble ourselves like the righteous of the past.
If you are praised by others, read this du’a:
What to say when a Muslim is praised: اللَّهُمَّ لاَ تُؤَاخِذْنِي بِمَا يَقُولُونَ، وَ اغْفِرْ لِي مَا لاَ يَعْلَمُونَ [وَ اجْعَلْنِي خَيْرًا مِمَّا يَظُنُّونَ
Allaahumma laa tu’aakhithnee bimaa yaqooloona, waghfir lee maa laa ya’lamoona [waj’alnee khayram-mimmaa yadhunnoon].
O Allah, do not call me to account for what they say and forgive me for what they have no knowledge of [and make me better than they imagine].
Al-Bukhari, Al-‘Adabul-Mufrad no. 761. See Al-Albani, Sahih Al-‘Adabul-Mufrad (no. 585). The portion between brackets is from Al-Bayhaqi, Shu’ab Al-Iman 4/228, and comes another account
The Messenger of Allah (saw) said: Whoever says – upon going out of his home:
Bismillãh, tawakkaltu `alã ‘allãh, lã hawla wa lã quwwata ‘illã bil-lãhi ta`ãla,
[I put my trust in Allah, there is neither might nor strength, except by Allah, the Most High]
It is said to him:
“You have been sufficed, protected, and guided, and the shaytan would move aside from him, then say to another shaytan: What access do you have to a man that has been guided, sufficed, and protected?”
[Sunan Abi Dawud]
- Remember death
- Visit the graveyard
- Read about death
- Sit alone and repent and cry
- Make du’a
Remember, the soul goes through stages, so if it doesn’t want to do one type of action, do another one instead (with the optional actions) or do it in a different way! This doesn’t apply to the obligatory actions which must be done regardless.
In the Hadith of Abu Bakrah (ra) in the Sahih of Imam Bukhari:
أنه انتهى إلى النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم وهو راكع فركع قبل أن يصل إلى الصف فذكر ذلك للنبي صلى الله عليه وسلم فقال زادك الله حرصا ولا تعد.
Abu Bakrah was so eager to join the congregational Salaah that he started and then performed rukooh before actually being in any of the sufoof. Then he, while in the bowing (rukoo) position, walked to join the sufoof, which is the incorrect manner of joining the congregation as a latecomer. The Prophet (saw) recognised his eagerness so he (saw) praised Abu Bakrah for it by making du’a for him. However, the Prophet (saw) pointed out to him that this was the incorrect manner to express his eagerness.
Imam Muslim narrates that Muawiyah b. Hakam Radi Allah anh said:
ما رأيت معلمًا قبله ولا بعده أحسن تعليماً منه.
صلوات ربي وسلامه عليه.
Look at the gentleness of the Prophet (saw). This is with the Salaah and it’s a big mistake. Yet, he (saw) didn’t shout or rebuke him, as we do with our students and young ones.
This doesn’t mean that we don’t rebuke, rather we look at each person’s situation and, where possible, we are gentle.
Du’a in sujood and du’a after tashahud should be prolonged in these nights. If you don’t know Arabic then any du’as you have memorised, the du’a of Laylatul Qadr, istighfar and anything else you know should be used.