Being Better in Private than in Public

The diseases of the heart are many and are far worse than many actions of the limbs. People with diseases of the heart usually have a different side to them behind closed doors and it occasionally flares up in public with something they say or do.

This is why some of the righteous of the past have said that a sign of sincerity is being better behind closed doors than you are in public.


Conditions of Repentence (Tawbah) from Sins

Repent for every haraam action you’ve ever done; from your eyes to your hands to not completing obligations to diseases of the heart like jealousy, hatred for others, arrogance.

  1. Stop the sin immediately.
  2. Remorse – feel sadness that you did it and cry over the sin.
  3. Be determined not to return to the sin.
  4. Ask Allah for His forgiveness.
  5. Sincerity – do it for Allah.
  6. Must be done before the rattle of death.
  • If it’s from the rights of others, then return it or its value if you stole.
  • If you spoke about someone behind their back, mention good about them in the same gathering and make du’a for them!

Rectifying Our Intentions

Du’a of ‘Umar ibn al Khattab (ra)

اللهُمَّ اجْعَلْ عَمَلِي كُلَّهُ صَالِحًا وَاجْعَلْهُ لِوَجْهِكَ خَالِصًا وَلَا تَجْعَلْ لِأَحَدٍ فِيْهِ شَيْئًا

Al’lahum’ma-ja’al ‘amalee kullahu saalihan wa-ja’alhu liwajhika khaalisan wa laa taj’al liahadin feehee shay’a

Oh Allah, make all of my actions righteous, make them purely for your sake & pleasure, and don’t allow anyone else to have a share of them.

If this is ‘Umar (ra) making this du’a then how great is our need to ask for sincerity!

The Importance of Ikhlaas (Sincerity)

Some ulama mention that the Sahaaaba used to do a lot of evil yet they still remained in a good state with their ikhlaas. This means they actually believed in what they were doing and were very truthful and honest.

Due to this sincerity and honesty they became Muslim. Allah sent the message to them and allowed them to conquer the world in a short space of time!  And they were the simplest of people!

Du’a For Sincerity

Ask yourself why you are doing an action before you do it.

اللَّهُمَّ اجْعَلْ فِي قَلْبِي نُورًا وَفِي لِسَانِي نُورًا وَاجْعَلْ فِي سَمْعِي نُورًا وَاجْعَلْ فِي بَصَرِي نُورًا وَاجْعَلْ مِنْ خَلْفِي نُورًا وَمِنْ أَمَامِي نُورًا وَاجْعَلْ مِنْ فَوْقِي نُورًا وَمِنْ تَحْتِي نُورًا‏.‏ اللَّهُمَّ أَعْطِنِي نُورًا ‏”‏

“O Allah put light in my heart and light in my tongue and put light in my hearing and put light in my sight and put light behind me and light in front of me and put light above me and light beneath me.
O Allah give me light.”

Memorising the Book of Allah

Try to memorise the book of Allah.

A Shaykh once mentioned that a man would pray 10 juz in his qiyaam ul layl just to help him revise his Qur’an.

A Shaykh in Egypt finished the Qur’an in eight months. If you recite from anywhere in the Qur’an, he can carry on from that Verse!

A man started memorising the Qur’an when he was in his fifties, He memorised a few Aayahs a day and when he reached his late 70s/80s, he had memorised the entire Qur’an!

A blind Shaykh was on a journey and the people didn’t have a watch so couldn’t tell the time. The blind Shaykh told them the time. They enquired as to how he knew and he replied that they left at this time and it takes him 15 minutes to recite one juz from his memory and that he had already completed a few juz.

Memorising is not hard, it just takes discipline and sincerity.